This piece is about self-care in the midst of life, so we better handle our life situations, and the more we include self-care in our life, it becomes preventative and we end up doing some basic and preventative self-care such as:

  • Going to bed early
  • Time for exercise
  • Healthy eating with vegetables and meats being prominent and processed foods being eliminated
  • Chasing your dreams, be they travel, time out alone, being of service in the community, time with people who enrich your life
  • Enjoying nature, sports, the arts

The self-care ideas are personal to each person, so one person’s picnic under a shady tree may be another person’s coffee in a café. Here is a list of other ways to take care of yourself:

  • A brief afternoon nap - 10 mins to 45 mins, or longer
  • Closing eyes for 5 minutes
  • Focusing on your breathing
  • Visualizing a favourite anything, such as a place, person, piece of music or art

Feeling Calm

Feeling Calm: Taking Responsibility. When we do this, our anxiety, stress and nervous system settles and we are more likely to feel a greater sense of calm, feeling relaxed, and feeling centred. When we do this on an ongoing basis, we become increasingly effective at managing our day to day moments and internal “happy place”... So, instead of getting frustrated in the traffic, we are more likely to either leave for our destination earlier, or breathe, listen to lovely music or ring ahead and let others know we will be arriving in for example 15 minutes. That is, we are getting good at taking responsibility for our life situations e.g. calling ahead to say we will be late – and feeling ok about it, because we have gotten good at taking responsibility for ourselves via small self-care steps at other times in our day e.g. closing eyes for five minutes, sitting on the porch to write an article etc.

When we get good at this technique we find that we are more in line with how we want to:

  • Live our day
  • Interact with others, and
  • Manage tricky situations

We will also move progressively towards our life as we want it, instead of feeling we can’t feel relaxed because of the enormity of our life pressures. Little by little, step by step, we can focus our efforts and attention on doing what serves us, and in time, our day will include more pockets of ‘me-time’.

Is This Being Selfish?

Is this being selfish? Being selfish is a great thing when we look after ourselves to the degree that we better connect with others. When we behave in ways that disconnect from others, this is unhealthy for all. This is however different to taking time out for oneself as in this scenario we are connecting to our need for quiet and space, thereafter being better placed to connect to others. Take care and send your comments and questions. Let me know: “How do you take care of you….?”


Betty Chetcuti is an experienced Psychologist with a demonstrated history of working in private practice with children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families. Skilled in Emotion Focussed Therapy, Mindfulness, Family Therapy, Educational Psychology, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and REBT. Strong psychology professional graduated from University of Melbourne.

Betty’s Private Practice specializes in helping people take care of their emotions and to move towards living the life they want. EMAIL: PHONE: 0407 819 519

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